{"id":700,"date":"2017-03-06T15:21:00","date_gmt":"2017-03-06T15:21:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.blog.palmfront.com\/?p=700"},"modified":"2017-05-02T11:08:40","modified_gmt":"2017-05-02T11:08:40","slug":"must-read-wedding-invitation-etiquette-you-can-use-in-the-modern-world","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/palmfront.com\/blog\/must-read-wedding-invitation-etiquette-you-can-use-in-the-modern-world\/","title":{"rendered":"[MUST READ]: Wedding Invitation Etiquette You Can Use in the Modern World"},"content":{"rendered":"

There are a lot of emotions involved in weddings. So the more you can boil things down to simple emotionless guidelines, the better. But even more important,\u00a0if your grandma is operating<\/p>\n

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by a etiquette playbook you\u2019ve deemed irrelevant, you might end up hurting her feelings when you really\u00a0want to thrill and delight her.<\/p>\n

And we can\u2019t have that, can we?<\/p>\n

That said, there is a lot of wedding invitation etiquette that just hasn\u2019t been updated\u00a0to make sense in the current world of weddings.<\/p>\n

So let\u2019s, once and for all, go over the rules\u2014as they were once and as they are now.<\/p>\n

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Modern Wedding Invitation Etiquette<\/h2>\n

Should We Send Save-The-Dates? And When?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Save-the-dates are a relatively new invention (Don\u2019t believe me? Ask your\u00a0parents if they had them.), which means there is a refreshing (or confusing) lack of formal etiquette surrounding them.<\/p>\n

First up, save-the-dates are totally optional. It\u2019s handy to provide significant advance notice to guests. In fact, giving notice\u00a0six months or more in advance is great, and a year in advance for true destination weddings is even better.<\/p>\n

But that notice can come in any number of forms. You can send a save-the-date email, or make save-the-date phone calls.<\/p>\n

Or, of course, you can send out cute note cards or magnets or whatever creative trinket your heart desires. But only spend cash money on save-the-dates if you really want to. Because again? They\u2019re optional.<\/p>\n

Here is one word of warning about save-the-dates: if you send them out way in advance, and your ideas about the wedding change, you may well be stuck with the guest list you\u2019ve got.<\/p>\n

Sure, you can send out notes saying you called it all off and went to the courthouse with your families.<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s a lot harder to send a note saying you reduced your guest list from 150 to 100, and the recipient didn\u2019t make the cut. So tread lightly, and only give notice to folks you know you will be inviting, no matter what.<\/p>\n

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What Information Should We Include On Our Invitation?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

While it can be fun to get visually creative with your wedding invitations, you don\u2019t want to get creative with communicating the information, because well, you want people to come.<\/p>\n

While we\u2019ve gone in depth on wedding invitation wording in the past, the real key is just to remember to legibly communicate who, what, where, and when.<\/p>\n

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Do we Include Registry Information?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Old school traditional etiquette insists that you never include any information on your wedding registry, because that should only be spread by word of mouth. However, all your wedding guests really like to find registry information on wedding websites, so do everyone a favor and put it there. (I\u2019m calling the rule change as official.)<\/p>\n

In general, however, you probably don\u2019t want to mention anything about gifts on the wedding invitation. You want people there because you love them, not because you want a soupspoon, so don\u2019t muddle the message.<\/p>\n

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How Should We Let People Know\u00a0About Our Wedding Website?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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If you\u2019re sending out save-the-dates, putting your wedding website on them can be a helpful way to give guests a better feeling for what your wedding will look like (and encourage them to buy plane tickets, if you\u2019re holding off on sending official invites till a few weeks out). When you send out your formal invitation, it\u2019s helpful to include the wedding website information again. Typically you don\u2019t print the website\u00a0on the actual invitation, but instead on one of the (sometimes many) accompanying pieces of paper.<\/p>\n

And no, you don\u2019t have to have a wedding website if you don\u2019t want to. Don\u2019t let anyone tell you otherwise.<\/p>\n

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Source: apracticalwedding<\/em><\/p>\n

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