Every now and then as wedding planning evolves, you get to realize there are certain rules that were never even true! Here are top 5 wedding planning myths you never knew about.
Having a talented friend is just like hiring a professional.
As much as you would like to work with minimal budget, you may want to extend your budget a bit more to cover photography. Unless this friend is a professional and has a portfolio of wedding pictures taken in the past, you should not use them. You may have been awed by their pictures of nature; however, they may not appear as great when it comes to taking you on your big day.
You Must Wear a White Dress
There is nothing more mythical than this. In fact, ‘’it is believed’’ that if you do not wear white, it means you’re no longer pure or you already have kids. However, if you have never fancied white for your wedding, you go girl! You can pick any favorite color you would love to rock on your wedding. Remember it’s your day and you can do whatever you’re comfortable with.
Getting a Wedding Planner isn’t Necessary
You would be surprised at how much weight has been lifted off your shoulders when you get a wedding planner. Asides from the amount of stress you would be getting from planning your own wedding by yourself, you will end up spending more when you’re not hiring a wedding planner.
You Have To Break the Bank for Your Wedding
With so many options available now, you can have a simple wedding and spend less. All it takes is planning ahead of time and understanding your limits. You really do not want your fairytale ending to be laid in debt.
You have to have the same number of bridesmaid and grooms men or any at all
The idea of a bridal train or groomsmen is really a myth long overdue. If you do not wish to have bridesmaid or groomsmen at your wedding, it shouldn’t be a problem. Also, there Is no rule in the book that says you should have an equal number of bridesmaid or groomsmen at your wedding. So save yourself the stress and money of hiring people who will add up to your train and have a great wedding.
There is a lot to be said for external pressure to find a man or woman to settle down with.
When your parents are not bothering you, it is your friends forming a pressure group on your case. The wrongness of this needless exercise has been pointed out over and over again, particularly in this opinion piece here.
What doesn’t get enough attention is self pressure to marry. Of course it’s a mental conditioning that comes as an offshoot of society’s stance on marrying early, or at some certain ‘acceptable’ age.
But just as pressure from external sources is wrong, so is pressure that has been internalised- and here are reasons why:
1. Only you are in charge of your life
When it comes down to the crux of it, only you have the control over your decisions and while there are influences outside that could determine the things that you decide to do, the decision to be or not to be, to move or not to move, to leap or not to, and of course, to marry or not, it all boils down to you.
So why would you want to put yourself under this undue pressure?
2. There’s time on your side
We cannot say this enough – time is on your side! Marrying at 30 or above is not a symptom of failure. Marrying at 25 is not a guarantee of a happiness that surpasses your wedding day. Jangling biological clocks are not ticking as loudly as they make you think. It’s all a ruse to get you to conform to what society think is right. And while that may have its merits and actually work for some people, it does not mean it will for you.
You’re doing just fine by yourself. No need to change that when the right person has not come around just yet.
3. You may end up settling for trash
By setting yourself in a race against time, you are increasing the possibility of settling for what is less than ideal.
Matter of fact, you may end up with actual trash. Why leave your life now just so you can be joint at the hip to a pile of gabbage?
It is better to wait for the one, no matter how long it takes. It may sound alien, but it is the truth. If your expectations are healthy and reasonable and no one looks to be matching up to it just yet, wait for it. It’ll happen and you’ll be happy you did wait.
Better that than settling for something that’ll rob you of your peace of mind in the long run.
Culled from Pulse Weddings
Congratulations! You have finally tied the knot with your soulmate and you have officially gone from Miss. to Mrs. but it doesn’t end there.
As a married woman, you are required to legally change your name on your personal documents and there is a process to it.
It is quite easy and inexpensive and we are here to help you out. See below the 3 easy steps to follow.
#1. The first step is to swear an affidavit in court stating your intention to change your name. An affidavit is a technical term for a sworn statement in writing made especially under oath or on affirmation before an authorized magistrate or officer of the court.
The affidavit should state your fathers name, your place of residence, your present name, and your new name.
All you need to do now is go to the high court and swear an affidavit saying you have changed from your old name and wish to be known by your new name, and you show your affidavit anywhere you want to present any documentation in your old name.
#2. The second step is to contact the offices of any leading newspaper in your locality and advertise the change of your name indicating clearly your present name, your husband’s name, your address, and your new name.
Get your new name printed in the Official Gazette. Send an application to the documentation Department of Publication, Civil registry, requesting them to publish the above advertisement for a change of your name.
#3. Ensure you change your name on all of your personal documents, inform your employers so they can update their employee records (and any tax records). You will have to attach a copy of the newspaper when applying for other government documents (passport, National identification card, etc).
Today in our 2018 Retrospects series, we would be taking a look at some Aso-ebi styles that rocked the year 2018. One interesting feel about these designs are their color combos, really lovely. Here are pictures for your viewing.
P:S- This styles were selected randomly based on different variables.
As we are starting our 2019 with so much anticipation for great weddings to come, we would like to take a look at some remarkable things around what happened in wedding space in 2018. We would be start the 2018 in Retrospects series with our top 10 celebrity wedding. 2018 was really an incredible year for celebrity weddings . Here is a list of our top 10 celebrity weddings.
P:S- This list is in no way created as a ranking order, all the wedding listed were top notch wedding.
Iheoma Nnadi & Emmanuel Emenike #Ihemma2018
It was all glam as Most Beautiful Girl Nigeria 2014 Iheoma Nnadi tired the knot with Nigerian Supereagles striker Emmanuel Emenike.
Lala Akindoju & Chef Fregz #Àṣéwẹ́rẹ́niṣẹ́Olúwa
Actress meets chef that was how the love story started.
Omawunmi and Tosin Yussuf #TOY18
Nigeria’s talented singer Omawumi tired the knot with are boo Tosin Yussuf
Ghanaian Rapper Sarkodie and Tracy
In July 2018, all roads led to Accra, Ghana for the wedding ceremony of the rapper Sarkodie and his beautiful wife, Tracy.
Zainab Balogun & Dikko Nwachukwu #Zaidik2018
OAP and movie star Zainab Balogun and her boo tied the knot in May 2018.
Lala Akindoju & Chef Fregz
Linda Ejiofor & Ibrahim Suleiman #ISqaured18
Two Nollywood actors Linda Ejiofor and Ibrahim Suleiman too part in their own reality show.
Ghanaian Singer Becca & her Nigerian Lover Tobi
Talented Ghanaian singer Becca tired the knot with her Nigerian Lover Tobi.
DJ Consequence and Olayemisi #TheVibesWedding18
John Dumelo & Gift Mawunya Ghanaian Wedding
Ghanaian fine boy actor John Dumelo tired the knot with his love Gift Mawunya.
Xerona Duke and DJ Caise #XD2018
Daughter of former Cross-River state governor Xerona Duke tired the knot with DJ Caise
First things first, you should know that every Nigerian has the right to legally change their name. The process to legally change your name in Nigeria is a straightforward 2-step process.
Step 1 – Swear an affidavit in court stating your intention to change your name. An affidavit is a technical term for a sworn statement in writing made especially under oath or on affirmation before an authorized magistrate or officer of the court.
Step 2 – Publish notice of change of name in a national Newspaper, this is to give the general public notice that you have officially changed your name. However, that is not where it ends; the next thing is to be sure that you inform the relevant individuals about your change of name.
Due to modern day issues like financial fraud, terrorism threats etc. before you can prove your identity with the Government (e.g. getting an international passport or a drivers license) and your banks etc, you will be required to show a legal court documents to prove your identity. In such situation your marriage certificate would do.
Who should be notified of your new name?
Once you are done with the change of name process, be sure to change your name on all of your personal documents, inform your employers so they can update their employee records (and any tax records). If you are still a student then consider informing your school – some people avoid informing their school because of the fear that it complicates matters if you were admitted with one name, and then graduated with another name. Please note that there is no legal obligation to inform your school, if you decide not to because it is less complicated, then do not worry. Also, you should inform all your creditors and debtors about your change of name, and then finally all relevant government agencies.
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We pay so much attention to planning our wedding engagement and reception, forgetting probably the most important affair when it comes to getting married the REGISTRY. Only the married certificate received during the court wedding makes you legally married. There are two Federal Marriage Registries in Nigeria at the moment, the Federal Marriage Registry Abuja and the Federal Marriage Registry Ikoyi Lagos both under the Ministry of Interior and due to one reason or the other IKOYI REGISTRY is the most internationally recognized registry in Nigeria.
Here are 5 important things you need to know about getting married at the Ikoyi Registry.
1. What happens at the Registry each day of the week
Oath swearing happens usually on Tuesdays, while Wednesdays to Fridays are for contracting marriages.
- Two passports photograph from both the bride and the groom
- Photocopy of birth certificate or age declaration for both groom and bride
- Sworn affidavit for current marital status.
Getting married at Ikoyi registry costs between NGN 31,000.
4. Fill forms procedure
- Obtain and fill out form called “NOTICE OF MARRIAGE”. When you fill this, make sure the name of you and your spouse is boldly written and your surnames are underlined. Attach a copy of your passport photographs. A fee will be charged on submission of this form.
- Return to the registry after 21 days with already filled forms. You would be given another set of forms “AFFIDAVIT ON APPLICATION FOR CERTIFICATE”. Attach a copy of both of your birth certificates when submitting this form. If the birth certificate is not available, a declaration of age can be attached instead.
- Next, you fill the ‘Certificate of Bachelorhood/Spinsterhood’.
- If one or both couple had children before this marriage, an Affidavit should also be presented stating the number of children. This is to encourage transparency.
- The date for your interview is set.
5. On- the day requirements
You are expected to:
- Notify the registry of your preferred wedding date
- Present two witnesses from both bride and groom
- Present two rings and a Bible/Quran
The dress code is formal. No Casuals- Short sleeves, shorts and jeans are not allowed. You are to appear in either corporate or traditional attires.
Get to the registry as early as possible on your given date with your witnesses so you don’t miss your own wedding. The process must times is very fast. After you’ve completed the above requirement, your oath taking ceremony takes place, and you’re married!!!
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Mothers and Mothers-in-law are a well known topic when it comes to weddings.
The general thought is that they don’t get along; they antagonize each other most times. If you’re keen on carrying the moms along in peace, here are some ways you can get both your mother and mother-in-law involved and working together for your wedding:
Go shopping with them for outfits
This is probably one of the great ways of bonding. Three of you can go shopping together to pick outfits they will be wearing for the wedding. Give them the idea of what your wedding colors and patterns are. Then let them have freedom to pick what they each like within these boundaries. They don’t have to be the same. Remember not to take sides or admire one’s choice more than the other.
Get them to ‘’Man the Area’’
This means getting them as backup in case anything goes wrong. For instance, ensuring that meals get to everyone, or getting unruly guests out of the event. They can also help you keep the makeup artist or hairdresser in line if you’re too nice to say something when you don’t like the look. Anything that will get them actively involved in your wedding. Also, it’s necessary that you make sure that their roles are defined- let them work closely enough but let them each be responsible for something separate.
Let them pick out some priorities
Both mothers would really love one particular thing to be present at the wedding. It’s important to get to know what they are and let them be present there. Not so much that it’ll choke you and not so little that it’ll break their hearts.
Get them to shop with you for your wedding gown
They would be excited about following you to try out your wedding gown. They can also share opinions or give their ideas about your outfit. It’s important to get them talking even if you’ll still go with what you want. You can even get them to choose the shoes you will be wearing on your big day
Source: Sugar Weddings
Sure, there’s nothing quite like celebrating Christmas at home with your loved ones, but a fun filled resort tip is not out of it. Here are 5 resort destinations that’ll inspire you to change things up this year.
1. Tinapa Resort (Calabar)
Tinapa is a business and leisure resort located in Calabar, the beautiful capital of Cross River State in the South-south part of Nigeria.
The resort offers amazing features like a casino, children’s arcade, an amphitheater, retail and wholesale outlets for your shopping needs and an 8-screen digital cinema.
Located at the Calabar Free Trade Zone, you can equally seize the opportunity to buy electronic items at very cheap prices as well as check out some business opportunities within the zone.
Finally, don’t forget to attend the colourful Calabar Festival.
2. Omu Resort (Lagos)
Omu Resort is a top notch resort in Lagos. If you would love to have fun adventures during the Christmas holidays in Nigeria, this is certainly a place to be. Omu resort is situated around a rain-forest environment, it allows guests experience the wonders of nature.
From access to a zoo to the presence of the sea-world, wax museum, archery, a mini-golf course, mechanical bull riding, horse riding, waterpark, swimming-pool and amusement park.
Additional access to Quad Bikes, Roller Skating, Kayaking, and Go-Karts.
3. Ibom Golf Resort (Akwa Ibom)
Located in the elegant state of Akwa Ibom, Ibom golf resort formerly known as Le Méridien Ibom Hotel & Golf Resort is situated amidst rich palm forest vegetation, this magnificent hotel on 174 hectares of land connotes peace and serenity complemented by its original atmosphere.
The resort is known for its outstanding and world-class golf course with fantastic lodging and dining service. The modern haven of countless activities, delicious cuisine and a myriad of interests to suit anyone wanting quality time in a unique environment this holiday season.
4. La Campagne Tropicana Beach Resort (Lagos)
If you love a serene and beautiful environment where you can get a feel of the nice warm weather then La Campagne Tropicana Beach Resort is your stop. The beach resort provides a pleasant, fascinating and excellent holiday relaxation for you and your loved ones.
The resort lies on the coast of the Atlantic Ocean, bordered by Ikegun Lake. It combines an African themed hospitality with modern luxury; offering comfortable accommodation with 29 well-equipped chalets, luxury tents, a private swimming pool and the perfect beach for picnics. It is one of Africa’s most visited beach resort.
5. Whispering Palms (Lagos)
A top beach hotel and resort, Whispering Palms is located within the outskirt of Lagos in Iworo/Ajido town, off Badagry Expressway. The facility offers a combination of exclusiveness, beauty, ambience, wonderful sightings, and lovely artworks! The scenery is overwhelming, the warm breeze from the Atlantic Ocean romantically blows away your worries.